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[pnictogen_wing]

I'm genuinely bummed by the end of Cohost. I've tried to be blasé about it, because I'd like to be blasé about everything, able to take the unexpected in stride. And it's not as though there wasn't plenty of advance warning! But rather than make the best use of that grace period I frittered it away and now I feel lost.

I really do like my "safe spaces" when it comes down to it. I feel as if I've not had many in my life. Partly that's my fault; I've been an extremely difficult person to be around, both online and off, and only in the last few years do I feel as though I've become tolerably civilized, though still not up to the best standards.

Now what? I still don't know. Today's been a day of dissociative fog and feeling lost.

~Chara of Pnictogen

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Thoughts

[ysabetwordsmith]

>> I'm genuinely bummed by the end of Cohost.<<

My sympathies.

If you're new here from Cohost, then you might like newcomers which is covering the shutdown and providing resources about Dreamwidth. You can introduce yourself in the Friending Meme or find your Cohost friends if you wish. These are also resources you can share with other folks riding the wave from Cohost.

There is also eggbug_club.

>> I've tried to be blasé about it, because I'd like to be blasé about everything, able to take the unexpected in stride. And it's not as though there wasn't plenty of advance warning! But rather than make the best use of that grace period I frittered it away and now I feel lost.<<

It can be hard to deal with a loss, even if you know it's coming.

>> I really do like my "safe spaces" when it comes down to it. I feel as if I've not had many in my life. <<

People need safe spaces. Especially online -- cyberspace is like the Jedi Tree, it contains only what we bring into it. So we need to understand how to make a safe space.

>> Partly that's my fault; I've been an extremely difficult person to be around, both online and off, and only in the last few years do I feel as though I've become tolerably civilized, though still not up to the best standards.<<

I'm best described as "differently civilized."

>> Now what? I still don't know. Today's been a day of dissociative fog and feeling lost.<<

There's a Cohost mourning post over on newcomers for folks to share their feelings.

Re: Thoughts

[pnictogen_wing]

thanks so much! I'm glad to know there's some gathering-places. you've lightened my heart tonight, thanks. ~Chara

Re: Thoughts

[ysabetwordsmith]

I'm happy that I could help. It sucks to lose a platform that you love. At least I can try to help people find other places that they'll enjoy.

You might like "Let Your Freak Flag Fly" which lists some of the communities on Dreamwidth that match things Cohost refugees have mentioned as interests. followfriday is also good for finding communities.

[deadfrog]

<3

[reccanti]

I'm really bummed about it too. I've been trying to keep up with folks, but it's still kind of hard between all the different websites, commenting systems, and trying to rebuild my own site with comments on top of that. I'm seeing everyone in my RSS reader, which is nice, but it's also hard to let people know I'm seeing them without being able to drop a like as easily.

Anyway, I hope we all find our nice little places ❤️